Have you ever heard a parent tell another parent that they are letting their child fail or cry it out because it helps “build character”? I know I have and I never really thought much about the saying until today. My quote of the day was from Helen Keller and read, “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.” What a great expansion on the short and casually used saying.
Building character is not a straight path. It is a winding road of wins and losses that lead you to develop resilience and strength to become the person you are meant to be. Sometimes it requires you to cry it out, and other times you have to pick yourself up and push on. However, it all plays a role in who you are and how you will handle the next experience.
While building character is not just about how you learn to fail it is also about how you learn to win. Winning does not mean you took first place in the science fair, but instead, you found the confidence to enter in the first place. Character does not measure success and failure, it merely tracks patterns and helps you to react and adapt to similar situations in the future.
Your character is always changing and evolving. Character is the guiding force behind why we do what we do and the decisions we make. It is always building and always pushing us toward what we desire most. So, let it grow and keep building.