I am currently reading Girl Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis. This book is so fantastic and a great way to take a step back and look at your life from a whole new perspective. In the fourth chapter, she talks about judgment. At one point she says, “the stones we most often try to fling at others are the ones that have been thrown at us.”
While I agree entirely with this, I also believe that we throw the stones we most fear will be thrown at us. We defend ourselves by trying to predict others judgments about us. So, we throw stones. We cast judgment as a way to make ourselves feel better about our own shortcomings.
Judgment is really just insecurity wrapped up with a condescending and hypocritical bow. Hollis goes on to talk about how we use judgment to “hold people accountable.” This is just another cover up for the stones we are casting. This is just an outward expression of our own dissatisfaction of our actions.
When you are judging someone, you are only projecting your own fears and insecurities on that person. You are shifting the focus from your own issues on to another person in an effort to avoid the real problems you are facing. It is time we all start facing our problems and insecurities head on. If you can not acknowledge your own flaws, you have no business casting stones.
Take a hard look in the mirror and hold the stones close to your heart. Love yourself enough to let go of the fear and worry. Focus on you and only you and the judgment will melt away because no one is perfect.