We all know the A.A. prayer or Serenity Prayer, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.” While I am not an alcoholic, I find a lot of comfort in this prayer. It is relevant in any aspect of life.
Have you had times in your life when you did everything “right” and all you could to achieve success, but it did not pan out as you hoped or expected? I know I have. These times when you know there was nothing more you could do to change the outcome are the hardest disappointments to overcome.
That is where this prayer comes in. Whether you pray or not, there is comfort in knowing that you can always accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can. However, the acceptance part is the hardest.
Accepting what you cannot understand at the moment seems impossible. So much of the time, for us to accept things that we cannot change we want explanations and practical reasons. Unfortunately, we do not always get that validation.
So, we have to focus on other things. Take other parts of your life into your own hands. You have control over much more of your life than not. It is important to let this fact comfort you and help you move on. It is likely that in time you will find clarity and validation in the things you could not change in the past.
Remember not to let life’s disappointments get you down. Sometimes things do not make sense. Sometimes you have to blindly accept what you cannot change and move forward.