“If you stopped yourself every single time you were about to say, “I have to” and changed it to “I get to,” it might change your entire experience.” – Kristin Armstrong
Wow, what a thought! I have never really thought about how often I say “ I have to”. I probably say it upwards of 20 times a day.
What I find so striking about this is that just reading the words “I have to” gives me anxiety. In fact, my anxiety has been high over the past few weeks because I feel I have more things to do then time to do them. I look at my to do list and think, gosh I just have so much to do.
The reality, that I keep trying to remind myself of, is that I am so blessed. I caught myself becoming overwhelmed today and then remembered that I am so lucky. I have gone after my dream and I am achieving it. I have a roof over my head, I can pay my bills and put food on the table.
I can almost guarantee that there is someone in the world who would be thrilled to get to do what you “have” to do each day. Even the simple things like taking a shower, doing the laundry and making dinner are a privilege and a blessing.
We think of these tasks as negative experiences we must do each day to lead successful and productive lives. However, we are fortunate to even have the resources to do said tasks. Can you even imagine a life without running water to take a shower? Can you imagine a life without a roof over your head? My guess is you cannot.
So, we need to keep our lives in perspective. If you are reading this, you get to do far more than many others around the world. You get to read, that in and of itself is a blessing. It will be hard to make this change and people may think your choice in words are odd at first, but once you explain it to them they will see that they too should turn their “have to’s” into “get to’s”.